As we approached the new moon in Virgo this past weekend, you may have felt some of your “stuff” being pulled into your awareness. This new moon was among many other things, a time for clearing out the old things that are no longer serving us or are holding us back, to create space for the new things we are desiring to call into our lives. This for me, represented a time for healing.
The problem with healing is that it can be quite an awful process. I used to associate healing with “feeling better”. What I’ve found is quite the contrary. Although healing is necessary for growth and advancing to the next stages of our lives and stepping into our true potential, quite honestly, it feels like shit. And when you get to the bottom of what the healing process entails, it would only make sense that it would feel this way.
Healing is a surfacing of all the things that have prevented us from finding true peace and happiness throughout our lives.
These can be represented in old habits, the way we treat others and ourselves, thought patterns, and experiences or traumas that have caused us extreme pain. The healing process then asks us to face those things head on, fully acknowledging their presence when it’s so much easier (albeit much less beneficial) to tuck them away, pretending they don’t exist.
What we need to do is learn to struggle with our old habits rather than against them. If we want to work through this "stuff" we need to learn to stop resisting the discomfort. I visualize it as shedding layers of myself that are holding me back from stepping into the next stage of my life. After each layer is shed, we need to allow ourselves time to adjust to this new version of ourselves and that is when the growth can truly occur.
At any given time, you have two options: to step forward into growth or back into safety.