I had a revelation very recently when I realized I was the creator of my own problems. When I took the time to actually reflect on just the last few years of my life, I recognized that my current life consists of just about everything my past-self ever wanted.
Upon this realization, I had to ask myself how I could feel anything other than pure bliss, peace, and contentment in the present moment. The answer was really quite simple. The present moment was not what was causing me unhappiness, but rather my thoughts about it.
A good indicator of how much time and energy you waste on creating problems for yourself is the physical versus mental energy you exert on something.
For example, if you have someone in your life that you feel creates stress or negativity, reflect on how much time you actually physically spend with this person.
Then, allow yourself to measure that against how much time you spend thinking negative thoughts about that person and the stress they cause.
Chances are, a lot of your stress and unhappiness is caused by the thoughts you are having about the person rather than the actual time spent and events that occur with the person.
Most of our worries, stresses, and “problems” are truly in our head. Overthinking is very literally killing the happiness of our realities.
International Yoga Trainer,